How To Have Better Solutions

Does the quantity of your efforts match the quality of the results you get? Do you wish that you could get better results? There is one simple and effective way that anyone can use to get better results without it costing a single cent.

Just ask better questions!

You can choose to ask yourself if you are happy. There are times when the answer will be "yes" as you can feel a surge of joy and confidence inside you when things have gone well. There are times when your answer will be "no" if you had a bad day, and your confidence has taken a beating. If your answer was "no", you get into a worst state than before you asked yourself the question.

Ask a better question. Ask yourself what you can be happy about. When most people ask themselves this question, they think of the things that they normally take for granted. By doing this, you can shift yourself to a more resourceful state and get out of the "poor me" state which will sap your energy.

What about at work where somehow you are not getting the recognition and the monetary rewards? You can ask yourself as to why your boss does not recognize your capabilities and reward accordingly. You will get answers to why you got a bad boss and in most instances you can do little or nothing to change that.

A better and more basic question may be to ask yourself what is it that you need to deliver to get the recognition and rewards. Sometimes, this question may show that you are missing some elements in delivering on the job. Tough pill to swallow but it is easier if you discover it yourself rather than having the boss pointing it out to you.

If you cannot answer the question yourself, ask your boss how you are doing on the job. You do not have to wait for the annual appraisal for him or her to tell you, by which time it is too late.

As you discuss with your boss, if the answers are not clear enough for you to act on, ask better questions. If for example, he says that your report is not detailed enough, you can ask him what else might be required to make it sufficiently detailed.

Remember that if you volunteer to ask these questions, you will be seen as taking initiative. However, if the boss pulled you up for a badly done job, and you ask the same questions, he or she will see it as being challenged. So, be proactive whenever possible.

Now, if you find that your work is good and yet you are not getting recognized, you can either gripe about it or ask yourself another question like should you look for another job? If the answer is "no", then next will be to question yourself as to the value of staying on. It could be that the learning experience is valuable enough for you to stay on for a while.

Asking better questions applies to any aspect of life. The trick is in asking questions that will give you answers that will solve your problems, not create bigger problems.

If you asked yourself why you are sad or why you are doing a bad job of whatever it is you are doing, you will get answers as to what makes you sad or do a bad job. Those are not the actions you want to take. Ask questions that will give you actions to achieve better results.

You may argue that if you know what you should not do, the opposite is what you should do. Sounds logical! The only problem is that your brain absorbs and attracts the negatives if that is what you are primarily feeding it. You then start attracting negative elements. So, it is crucial that your answers are the positive ones that you want to act on.

Does this apply when you are at social gatherings? Most definitely!

A typical question will be "how are you?" and the person replies "fine, thank you" and that ends the conversation. Better questions must involve something that the person with whom you are speaking knows a lot about.

Everyone knows about him or herself well. So, if you ask a question like "what was the last enjoyable movie that you watched" followed by "what was it about the movie that was enjoyable," the chances are this person will be able to talk about it. Or it could be "did you read any good books recently" and "what was good about that book?"

The trick is in just remembering one thing. If you do not like the result you are getting, and you are frustrated, ask a question that will get you out of the frustrated state.

You will be amazed at the changes you will see in yourself, when you start asking better questions.

Resource Box: Author: James Dodson, Email: datasan6@gamil:com
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How To Dejunk Your Life

Are you constantly stressed because you can't get organized, no matter how hard you try? Do you ever feel as if you are drowning in a sea of stuff? Are you frustrated because you are always running behind? If so, here are a few steps towards a better organized you.

Start with a plan. Don't try to do everything at once, or you'll get overwhelmed and give up before you even start. Junk accumulates in 4 areas: space, time, priorities, and paper/information.

Decide which one of the 4 areas you want to deal with first, and then ask yourself these questions:

1. Why do I need this in my life?
2. Why do I want this in my life?
3. Why is this essential in my life?

As you use the 3 questions above, take baby steps in what will be a life-long progress that will help you be more successful and have less stress and more balance in your life.

Your Space

When you eliminate things you don't need or use, life becomes simpler, with less stress and more balance. You are able to focus on the things that are important to you, and you can get more enjoyment out of your space.

As you go through your home, tackle one room at a time, starting with the area that's most frustrating to you. Get that under control, and then move on to another problem area.

The bathroom is often a good starting place because it's one of the smallest rooms in your home, and de-cluttering it will give you a sense of accomplishment and renewed energy to keep going.

Your Time

Do you want more time to take care of yourself? Are you trying to squeeze more time out of your day to spend with your family? Are you looking to cut down on your chores at home? Time seems to be one area that gets out of balance very quickly.

There are many activities vying for your attention: socializing, church and school programs, recreation, yard work, reading, exercise, and so much more....And even though they all seem important, you don't have time for all of them. You need to make decisions about how to best spend your time.

To help you manage your time, make sure you have a family calendar with everyone's activities recorded on it: not only will this help you stay organized, but it will show you if you are spending enough time with your loved ones.

Use lists to stay on track: grocery lists, cleaning lists, project lists, etc. Lists help you in two ways: first, by writing down your tasks you are de-cluttering your mind, and second, you can do your chores quickly, knowing exactly what needs to be done.

Remember that time is a precious gift: use it wisely by making choices rather than reacting to situations as they occur.

Your Priorities

Do you find yourself on the run at all times? It's really easy to always be busy and not accomplish things that are most important in your life.

When you know what's important to you and what your goals are, it is easy to say "no" to those activities that don't move you towards those goals. To set priorities, you must first know what you want to achieve: take time right now and think where you want to be in 1 year, 5 years, and even 10 years.

What will you be doing? Where will you be doing it? Why will you be doing it? How will you be doing it? And lastly, with whom will you be doing it?

Once you have a clear picture of where you want to be, you can create a plan to take you there. Write your goals in pencil, and don't be afraid to change them, if your life's circumstances change. Goals are just guidelines for your life.

Your Paper/Information

You need a plan to control all types of information: your photos, children's mementos, bills to be paid, receipts, warranties, income tax information, and any other vital documents.

For photographs, have them placed in an album for that year, or for the occasion, immediately after you picked them from the photo shop: otherwise, you'll be wondering later on, where or when you took those pictures.

For your kids treasures, get a box for each child, and when they fill it, they need to throw away one memento before they add their last creation. This is the best way to save only the best of your children's treasures.

For your vital documents, make sure you have them in a safety deposit box.

As for your online information, organize your desktop and your email with well labeled folders, and make sure you only save information that is absolutely necessary: otherwise, you'll soon be overwhelmed.

There are so many things you can do to de-junk your life! I hope this is the beginning of a great adventure for you, as you declare war on junk and take control of your life.

Resource Box: Author: James Dodson Email:datasan6@gmail.com
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